We have an idiom in France. With « if’s » we could put Paris in a bottle. Right on. What if I had done this, what if I had done that. If’s put in question your entire life when you spend your time thinking about them. There probably are many « if’s » in my life. If I had done things differently, even a tiny little thing, I would not be who and where I am right now. And to be honest, I am pretty happy with what I have. Still, there would still be a few things i’d change if I could go back in time.
If I could go back in time, I would…
…tell my math professor from high school that having opinions is great, it’s even encouraged. Although, using those opinions to justify making fun of a student is not. I do get that not everyone will like my fashion style and just as much, I won’t like everyone’s. However, bullying me in front of the entire classroom for wearing heels, was humiliating, reductive and purely mean. Worst of all, as a figure of authority, he made it legitimate to bully me, which of course, many of my classmates delighted in doing. So if I could go back in time, I would confront him the day it happened, tell him that he abused his position of power and contributed to destroying my self-confidence, which took me years to rebuild.
…tell a friend of mine how sorry I am for the way I behaved when he needed my support. Something terrible happened to him and instead of listening and helping, I dismissed him. I did not take him seriously and made it sound like what he had experienced was nothing. Worst, I used it against him on one occasion. Back then, I did not realize how pathetic and bad my behavior was. I was no better than all those persons I criticize for the same behavior today. So if I could go back in time, I would be here for him, supportive and listening. Today, I would tell him how deeply sorry I am and that if he needs to talk even after all this time, I am here.
…tell people my side of the story. I am who I am with as many flaws as you can have. One of the worst being that I never defend myself when I am attacked. I stay coldly silent and listen until the end. But I never stand up for myself. Even when I have not done anything wrong, even when I have no idea what’s going on, even when I feel like something is off, even when me staying quiet will have a significant impact on my future. So if I could go back in time, I would stand up for myself, tell my side of the story, make my voice be heard so that at least I know I’d done everything I could to change things and not stayed passive.
But I can’t go back in time so now it’s my responsibility to stand for myself, stand against an injustice when I see it and apologize to the persons I have hurt.
Shop my outfit:
Dress – Topshop
High heels – Single Price (10% off with MARIE10)*
Bamboo Handbag – eBay
Earrings – H&M
Watch – ADEXE London (15% off with CORINNE15)*
What about you? If you could go back in time, would you? Is there anything you would change? Or is there anything you want to change in the future?
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Wow I can’t believe your teacher bullied you for wearing heels. The is a total jerk. I would go back and say that too if I were in that situation.
I totally would go back and apologize to friends for my sometimes off-putting behavior, ha. Loving your outfit by the way!
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Wow, I love your shoes! If I could go back in time I would also apologize to some of my friends, but I would definitely have a meeting with your jerk teacher!
I’m sorry your math teacher was so terrible!
I wish I could go back and say some things as well. You look so pretty in this dress and I love your bag.
I know what it feels like. There were many times in my past where I should have asserted what I believed. Even now I feel scared to do that. Glad to hear that you have overcome these.
You are looking pretty in heels. Nice watch too!!!
Never thought what I could.. if.. but it would be interesting doing things differently!
I love that dress! I think I would go back and do a few of the things I was too scared to do then.
There are so many things I would have liked to have done differently in life. However I realized the way that each one turned out put me on the path to the life I have now, and the life I have now is pretty damn great. So with that being said as painful as some choices turned out for me, if I could go back I wouldn’t change a single thing!
There are so many things in life we wish didn’t happen. However, those are the things that make us strong or will crush us. Great though provoking post.
You look so beautiful. I like your bag very much, my friend also has one like yours.
I love your saying that “But I can’t go back in time so now it’s my responsibility to stand for myself, stand against an injustice when I see it and apologize to the persons I have hurt.” You’re a brave girl to stand for injustice and fight for yourself. I think every woman should love themselves well enough to protect themselves and their beloved ones.
I totally understand not standing up for myself when I should have. I remember doing that a couple of times in my life. Either way there are regrets, so might as well do it the right way.
I would tell the young me, patience is a virtual and trust your instincts as there are always spot on.
There are times when we think telling someone something else back then could change the outcome of the future. It is so petty of your HS math professor to make fun of you! Kids are still developing and this is wrong on so many levels. I totally understand about the things you would want to tell your friends. Even though we can’t do much now, we can definitely change the outcome of the future by taking a step back to think about what we can do now :).
I love this girl! I honestly don’t know what I would do if I could go back in time!
I had a teacher once who bullied me for everything to the point I had to drop out of class. I love your outfit and that handbag. If I could go back in time, I’d do so many things over and change a lot of opinions I had that seemed like a good idea at the time.
I love the idea of this post – I bet it was quite cathartic to write as well! I’d definitely go back and tell a few people what I thought of them… or go back and ignore them completely!
I loved reading this. I try not to think too much about my ifs because I know I can’t change them but I think my biggest one is IF I could go back in time, I wouldn’t have gone to uni when I did. Maybe not at all. But I’d definitely have taken a year out to think more about what I really wanted x
Love this post, its so different and thought-provoking. Also, love your outfit! If I could go back, I wouldn’t change anything, everything I have been through has led me to my current self and I am happy with where I am. Every downfall has been a lesson that I have learnt or am learning from
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Oh wow, this is so inspiring and I guess we all have things we would wanna do different etc. but like you said, we all have to live with it and in some way, I think it makes us stronger once we realize what we didn’t do and now we pay more intention to it.
I love the message behind this post. I definitely have my fair share of regrets. I don’t like thinking about them too much though because in the end life goes on and we can’t let ourselves dwell too much on the past. I think it’s great that you’re thinking about the future and how you change things then.
Really liked this post, it’s a really cool blog post idea! Also, really cute outfit?❤️
What a great post and you look amazing!
Really got me thing about what i would do if i went back in time. x
I am very guilty of going over all the what if’s of literally all scenarios. I completely agree that it’s bad to dwell on things that you can’t change, but it’s also really important to reflect on past actions just as you have in this post. Enjoyed reading this!! 🙂
What a fun and creative idea for a post. I think we can all relate to this so much! I sure do have my own : what if’s .. I think for me the most important one is that I would have quit my previous bachelor much sooner to persue what I really want to do.
One of my fave series is called Being Erica and it is about a young woman taking a time travel therapy.
If you haven’t watched it, I think you would really enjoy it!
Your outfit is gorgeous! I love those heels and the dress! Sorry that you had to deal with your math teacher, it’s awful that someone you are supposed to look up to like teachers, comes up with something like that. If I could go back in time, I’d tell my first crush how much I liked him.
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You look absolutely stunning in this outfit. The shoe rocks!
love that outfit… enjoyed reading it.
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That teacher should have been fired for bullying you! I remember I used to have a colleague in highschool who liked his hair long. The math teacher hated it and always asked him to cut it, giving him ultimatums. But he stood his grounds and refused to do it. I met him after 10 years, and he still has long hair.
What an interesting and profound post. I can’t believe your maths teacher thought it was ok to bully you like that. Thanks for sharing.
Teachers like that should not be teaching in my opinion. I am so sorry you had to go through that! I agree we all have those “if” situations.
If I could go back I would apologize to the few people I wasn’t kind to when I was in high school. I wasn’t a “mean” girl but for some reason, I justified not being as nice to them as I should have been. Otherwise, any of the things I have done have led to other positive things so those I wouldn’t want to go back and redo.
I really enjoyed your post and just want to say you are beautiful! From now on stand up for you, because if you don’t no one else will. 🙂
If, is a heavy word. There are things n my life that I wish I could go back and relive or say, especially if someone was bullying me like what happened to you. Other events I take as a learning curve and grow stronger from the experience.
Such a cute a look! I’m loving that cute handbag… I’ve been thinking of getting one of those for spring.
I love this outfit, its so bold! I would never think to pair some floral shoes with a polka-dot dress but this looks beautiful, well done! Thanks for sharing.
Sorry to hear about your experience on being bullied. But I would like to say I am loving your handbag
That teacher of yours was horrible! I definitely have my own set of “if’s” in life. But I’ve learned that these “ifs” are what teaches us life lessons. You definitely learned yours and you have come out better for it. 🙂
I would finish college and would not go back to the hometown.
I would never marry my first husband. But again, then I would not have these three beautiful children.
I would not have spent 13 years working in the company, but I would start my own business much earlier, …
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First, love your outfit and pictures! Also, I am sorry about your Math teacher — how completely inappropriate. That shouldn’t have ever happened.
I’ve done some things in my life that I wish I could take back but that’s how we learn and how we grow as a person as well. It would be nice to go back in time though, so I could spend some time with my mother more before she passed away. That’s probably what I would do if I could go back in time.
If I could go back in time I don’t think that I would change anything. They say every experience brings you to exactly where you are supposed to be in life.
This is such an interesting post topic. I’m not one to think about what I would change if I could go back in time because I believe that everything shapes who we are, but its definitely an interesting thing to consider!- https://sophiehearts.net x