For seven years now, I have been living in a flatshare. In the UK or overseas, studying or working full-time, I have shared a flat. So I have had to share my space with other people, follow collective rules and also be social at all time. Which got me thinking off 2011, to my second year at university, to when I was living alone in a studio flat.
I was all on my own. 30 meter square of silence and personal space. Of course, back then I was living in Lyon, and despite being located in the city center, it was still affordable. As opposed to anywhere I have been in the UK. But still, it got me thinking at why living alone was the best!
1. All the things you can do without being judged.
Manners may not be a pre-requisite when moving into a shared flat but there are still some basic rules to follow. Walking around naked? Nope. Listening to shit music loudly? Another no. Being a bit too vocal when having sex. To avoid as well. Because, you know, the flat is a community and you must abide by its rules and respect everyone. Fair enough. When you live on your own, well, you can pretty much do all the things you want without being judged or feeling bad. Dance naked, sing in the shower, play shit music, eat stinky foods, the floor is yours, do whatever you want.
2. You get to decide what to do with the space.
When you share a flat with others, the only space that truly belongs to you, is your bedroom. It can be messy but the mess must stay there. As long as all your dirty undies resting on your bedroom’s floor don’t spread to other floors then it is all good. This applies to dishes, beauty products, food, furniture, etc. Speaking of, you can’t really move furniture around or randomly decide to toss something. But when you are living alone, you totally can! The arrangement of the living room is not Feng Shui? Move it all around. Wanna make an exhibition of all your skincare products? The counter is yours!
3. You decide when to do your chores.
Is there anything more annoying that tidying up your place? Putting your wash away? Washing the dishes? Emptying the bin? And all chores in general? Yeah, I agree. So so annoying. All that time you could use for more productive things! Although doing a bit every day would probably make it super fast. When you live with others, you need to clean after yourself. When you live on your own though, you have no obligation to do anything! And, although I love procrastinating and I hate tidying, I also admit that a clean flat is quite enjoyable.
4. A little solitude never killed nobody.
Don’t get me wrong. I get along very well with my flatmates and enjoy a bit of chatting from time to time. However, after a long day at work, I am also very happy to be left alone. Being sociable is tiring and I enjoy my own company. When you are living alone, you do not need to talk to anyone or feel like you have to. It is just you, in a quiet flat. Alone does not mean loneliness and after a busy day, a little solitude is perfect to relax. And also to teach you how to enjoy your own company, appreciate some quiet time.
5. Other advantages we tend to forget about…
No shitty internet because it’s being shared by everyone and someone decided to stream some movies. Also, no one to steel your food. No one to yell at you for any reason. No over-heated or under-heated flat. But most important of all, no queue to the toilets ever. Or the bathroom.
I mean, your room in a flat share is still you personal space but it still does not fell the same than an entire flat being yours. It is just a shame that most cities in the UK are too expensive for millennials to afford studio flats. Or you need to share with your partner. And find some common ground on basic rules to keep the flat livable without putting much effort into it. Or just find someone who does not care about crap on the floor!
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Have you ever lived alone? Did you like it? If so, what was your favorite thing about living alone? Or are you sharing a flat? How do you manage to get some quiet time?
Thanks for stopping by. I hope you liked this post.
See you soon, love, Corinne.
*Pieces in this outfit have been gifted to me.