Saying Goodbye To The Party Girl

party girlI remember that time when I was quite the party girl. It was not so long ago and did not last for long either. My first two years at university, I was in a relationship and never really had the opportunity to go clubbing often. It is when I moved to New Zealand that I let it all out. From Wednesday to Saturday, sometime even Sunday, I was out, partying.

Party girl.

We had a pattern. Pre-drink from 9pm to 12am, clubbing from 12am to very early morning. Some nights, I’d go out till 5 or 6am, got back home at 7am and sleep for a few hours… or not at all. Like this time I went clubbing while having a finals the next day. Not very wise indeed but I got an A+ so I guess, it was not that bad.

One week, I did a Grand Chelem. From Thursday night to Sunday a week later. 10 days. Gosh that was exhausting. After that, I was not able to bear the smell of wine for quite some time. I suppose it forced me to take a break. A year long break actually… I moved to Italy for a year where I had so much university work – and friends who were not party animals – that I quit partying totally. I lost all the weight I had put on in New Zealand.

So that’s what happens when you quit alcohol.

When I got back to France and then moved to London, my party girl past caught up with me and I was back in clubs, spending a fortune on drinks. Just so we are clear, I have had a few very bad hangover but I was rarely wasted, I always knew when to stop. My party history is not consistent. It was on and off depending on where I was and what I was doing. However, during those “off periods”, I missed it quite a lot.

So much so, that when I was not partying, I felt quite guilty about it. I had gone into the habit of clubbing, drinking, dancing. And for a long time, going out was my main form of social life. So when it stopped, I felt very bad, like I no longer had a social life. That was a hard one to take.

Ironically though… I was growing increasingly lazy and reluctant to go out at all. I was missing being a party girl while not putting any effort to get back into that lifestyle. Because, believe it or not, I grew quite fond of cosy nights in with a book, a movie or a good meal. I grew quite fond of going out for drinks but being back before midnight. Finally, I grew quite fond of being able to fully enjoy my weekend.

When I was a student, I had no obligations to show up in class. If I had been partying all night, I could just skip class. Now that I work full-time, I can’t do that anymore. I need to show up no matter what I have done the night before. The only time I can rest or caught up with sleep is at the weekend now.

I admire those who can do it all – working, partying and functioning. I used to be able to do it and I wish it was still the case but it is not. But I had to make a choice. Since I was not willing to spend my weekend tired and hangover, I had to find a new form of social life. Good things that there are so many. Going out for a few drinks, meeting for brunch or coffee, reading, riding my bike, blogging, etc. So many good options.

I still enjoy going dancing from time to time but I said goodbye to the party girl. I am quite enjoying my (not so) boring new life, adjusting, settling in, finding new ways to keep me busy. My social life has changed as I have and I no longer feel guilty about it. And now I have a tiny kitten to keep me company!

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Asymmetrical Ear Cuff – Happiness Boutique
Silver Monkey Chinese Zodiac Necklace – Astrid & Miyu

What about you? Have you ever felt bad or guilty for not going out? Or not being a party animal? Did you used to be and have you seen a change? More of a cozy night in kind of person now?

Thanks a lot for stopping by. Hope you liked this post.

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  1. July 9, 2018 / 9:30 am

    Oh, I have always been a homebody so I have never felt guilty about not going out.
    I love staying in or going for dinner at a quiet restaurant but then I was always this way šŸ™‚

  2. July 9, 2018 / 11:44 am

    I couldn’t hack it nowadays, but I used to be out Monday, Thursday, Friday, and Saturday every single week although sometimes I miss it, I’m glad I don’t any more. I have more money for a start haha.
    I love this outfit, as usual you’ve styled it wonderfully šŸ™‚
    Cora |

  3. Abrah
    July 9, 2018 / 3:00 pm

    So true about the hidden calories in alcohol, especially in cocktails! Love your style, and ESPECIALLY love the heart-shaped glasses you’ve got on. I want some!

  4. July 9, 2018 / 4:05 pm

    I love this outfit! I was always more of a bar/pub girl than clubs, I always preferred places where I could chat as I’m not great in loud/busy areas. Things definitely calmed down for me when I had Dougie, for obvious reasons but I was completely fine with that, and my social life moved to brunches/lunches/dinner and cocktails, and I’m completely happy with that!
    Hels xx

  5. July 9, 2018 / 4:38 pm

    You look stunning! I am so happy for you and that you let go of the party girl part of you. It can be hard, but definitely something that does well for you on so many different levels. I’ve never been one, but my friend has so I’ve gotten to experience it from close.

    lots of love, Jasmin

  6. July 9, 2018 / 4:42 pm

    I think when I first turned 18 I wanted to be out all the time at clubs just because I could now that Iā€™m 21 I actually hardly go out and it makes the nights that I do go out extra special! Also loved your outfit it looks great on you! X

  7. July 9, 2018 / 4:51 pm

    Love your outfit šŸ™‚
    I always been the indoors kinda girl, I love my home.

  8. July 9, 2018 / 5:50 pm

    Your story sounds very similar to mine Corinne! I was such a party girl when I was in my early twenties, I used to go out drinking at least 4 or 5 times a week getting wasted. This went on for years until I settled down with my boyfriend, quit drinking, lost weight and enjoyed cosy nights in instead. Thank you for sharing, really enjoyed reading your story. Your outfit looks fabulous too! ? xx

    Bexa |

  9. July 9, 2018 / 8:13 pm

    I never quite understood the thrill of drinking. I guess growing up with an alcoholic dad made me afraid of liquor.

  10. July 9, 2018 / 10:57 pm

    I never went through a party/clubbing phase – was never really my thing! I don’t feel guilty about it either, it’s not for everyone šŸ™‚

  11. July 9, 2018 / 11:35 pm

    I think we all go through a phase like this until we realise no hangovers, real food and Netflix is actually pretty amazing! Interesting how yours varied country to country. And very jealous that you’ve lived in so many countries….I LOVE your outfit in this post too x


  12. Emma Riley
    July 10, 2018 / 7:09 am

    This is such a nice post and I really enjoyed reading your story. I don’t experience everything about that but I am glad that you left it behind and you are able to embrace your new you!

  13. July 10, 2018 / 8:49 am

    Your outfit here is both super cute but incredibly smart too, I love the colours! I was never much of a party girl but I do sometimes sit back and think ‘yeah those days are well and truly over’ as I’ve not been ‘ out out’ in over a year now, I don’t even remember the last time I had alcohol! x x
    Ellis //

  14. July 10, 2018 / 9:45 am

    It sounds a lot like me; when I was in sixth form and just hit 18 I was out all the time. I’d go to college, go to work after college, run home to get ready then head to the pub, to a club, get back at 4/5 and then do it all over again. I don’t know how I did it. That all changed when I got anxiety and I’m completely tee-total now. I don’t feel guilty anymore because I’ve had that period of my life, I loved it and had a lot of fun but that’s just not my life anymore.

  15. Princess Quinn
    July 10, 2018 / 12:50 pm

    Believe it or not, I only experienced clubbing once, when I was with my cousins. My mom actually let us out the whole night clubbing. LOL but, that night never happened again. Well, at least, not with my cousins. It was fun and all. Still, nothing beats a kareoke night with them.

  16. July 10, 2018 / 1:14 pm

    Oh my god, I love love your outfit, the matching suit is just so awesome. I love how the colors are pink and black and white t! Not forgetting that cute pair of love glasses! Simply amazing.

  17. July 10, 2018 / 1:51 pm

    I remember when I used to hang out with my friends all the time and would go out a lot. And then it would always catch up to me, even if I felt a little guilty having to miss a night hanging out because I was too exhausted. Once you are working and have a job it just isn’t the same doing it all the time. But I get missing the friends at the same time too. And you are right. Always other things out there to enjoy. It’s great you got a cat as well. šŸ˜‰

  18. July 10, 2018 / 2:02 pm

    I was never a party girl. I do enjoy getting out. But parties and clubs were not my thing.

  19. July 10, 2018 / 10:12 pm

    I have never been a party girl. I was invited to parties but never really saw the appeal. I would attend sometimes just to hang out with people but never drank or anything. I didn’t like how other people came across after they had been drinking and I didn’t want to be like that. I wanted to be clear minded and no let it change who I am.

  20. July 10, 2018 / 11:30 pm

    Thank you for writing such a honest, vulnerable post. It is not easy to change one’s lifestyle, but often for the better.

  21. July 10, 2018 / 11:46 pm

    I gave up my party girl ways just before I met my husband. For me, it got old. I was ready to settle down.

  22. July 11, 2018 / 1:38 am

    What a wonderful post! I love this, I’d totally wear this. Thanks for sharing! šŸ™‚

  23. Marcie
    July 11, 2018 / 2:59 am

    I’ve never been a partier, but I know what you mean about not feeling like going out. My husband and I usually have more time hanging at home relaxing. Plus, we save a TON of money!

  24. July 11, 2018 / 3:53 am

    Way to go on moving on in your life! I love the pics of you in your outfit!

  25. Pooja Kawatra
    July 11, 2018 / 10:05 am

    Even though I love meeting people over tea party or lunch but never was a party girl but you look lovely

  26. Blair villanueva
    July 11, 2018 / 12:39 pm

    I tried to become a party girl, but it didn’t last for long. I think i become a party girl for 2 to 3 times i remember, and its not for me.
    I like your outfit especially your eyewear.

  27. July 11, 2018 / 2:06 pm

    i was never a party girl, i did not like being one hahaha. i love the outfit <3

  28. July 11, 2018 / 2:39 pm

    The party life is fun, but not so much if it lasts forever! Love your glasses!

  29. July 11, 2018 / 3:01 pm

    You look great in your outfit. It’s good that you are adjusting quite well with your new set up in life and slowly leaving the party girl behind.

  30. July 11, 2018 / 4:15 pm

    I never had much of the party life. I have been with my fiance since high school and we have a rwo year old son. When we want to go out and have fun it never lasts too long because we just want to get into bed! It’s so great that you’re starting to get comfortable in your role though. Thanks for sharing!

  31. July 11, 2018 / 7:37 pm

    I’ve said my good byes with her too. No more dancing for this mom šŸ™

  32. July 12, 2018 / 2:25 am

    Being cozy at home is definitely my preference. It sounds like you have lived in some amazing places too. I love your outfit.

  33. Lydia Samson
    July 12, 2018 / 4:45 am

    Those are so cute. Are they PJs? I need them! I have never been a party person, I love being at home reading, writing or watching TV.

  34. July 12, 2018 / 1:33 pm

    I always love reading these more personal posts from you. This was such a fun read! I guess we all reach a point where we would choose a cozy night in rather than going out and partying- although I was never much of a party girl haha!
    Thanks for sharing your journey! xx

  35. July 12, 2018 / 6:05 pm

    Those eyeglasses are cute. I have been looking for a pair.

  36. July 13, 2018 / 2:07 am

    I’ve never been a party girl but I’ve always admired the fun they seem to have. The nights I do go out I am always tired before most of the fun gets started…LOL

  37. July 13, 2018 / 5:45 am

    I feel like as we get older we let go of some of the things we use to do. I know have and like you I’m definitely not regretting it.

  38. July 14, 2018 / 10:30 am

    Love it, Lovit, Love it! You are such a fashion guru… Always enjoy your stylish recommendations, I wished I’m half as fashionable as you…. Love this pink stripy jacket…

    August 6, 2018 / 12:45 pm

    Very nice article, Good-bye to the party girl… Very good i love it..

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