On Trying To Embrace A Bolder Style

bolder fashion style

I am not sure I ever had a fashion style. Back to school was a fun one. New year, new wardrobe, new beginning. I wanted to be one of the cool kids, be seen as someone who had style. Thus, I was putting so much effort at the beginning of the year to look super stylish. To give up a month later. First, what was called ‘stylish’ at the time did not suit my body shape at all. Second, I did not even like it!

The style I liked though, when I dared putting it on, got me a fair share of bullying, mockery and nasty comments.

Teenagers… Nasty little creatures, aren’t they?

If only that was just a teenager trait. But no, it is widespread across all demographics and even though it is more subtle as you grow up, it is still there, insidious and demoralizing.

When I left high school, I thought I’d be free to wear whatever I wanted. I always had a thing for high heels and despite nasty comments from my high school math teacher, I still was very keen on wearing them. I have also always preferred dresses to trousers and colorful combinations to a minimalist style.

The heels got me comments. The dresses got me catcalls. The colours got me mockery. Great… The more the things change, the more they stay the same.

I think my time in New Zealand changed me. Seeing everybody wear whatever they wanted whenever had me reconsider. I experienced such a great fashion freedom that when I got back home, there was absolutely no way I’d let a few idiots ruin my fun and prevent me from wearing what I loved. The comments and catcalls were still there but I was getting better at ignoring them.

Is their life so boring and miserable that they have to ruin other’s fun?! Why do people feel like they can judge others? Or have a say on how they lead their life? Mind your own business for god sake.

That being said… I still struggle to be completely at ease wearing the fashion piece I love. See that jumpsuit? Gorgeous, right? Colorful, funky, bold. It makes quite the statement. I have worn it a few times – for this shoot and twice at work. And inevitably, I got looks, comments and mocking smiles. Not from my friends or colleagues. Just strangers in the street who feels like they are allowed to judge someone who they don’t know and have never talked to.

I am trying to make abstractions of the unpleasant consequences of trying something different. Truth is, even though I am trying hard to feel comfortable with my fashion tastes, I still always feel like I have to blend in. As confident as I might be, people’s gaze is incredibly heavy. Ironic, isn’t it?! How everybody wants to be unique, different, special but does not allow others to be.

I am getting stronger though and wearing bolder pieces more and more often. You might have noticed after all. How my fashion post are more and more colourful. How I am more comfortable posing for photos in the street. And how I experience with pieces I had never worn before.

Side note, the other day, I spotted someone giving me the gaze, looked at them and rolled my eyes right at them. Message sent and received, crystal clear. Mind your own business. Childish but much needed.

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What do you think? Do you relate to this post? Have you ever felt judge for what you wear? Have you ever felt like you can be yourself in fashion because of people’s gaze? What do you do to change that?

Thanks a lot for reading. Hope you liked this post.

See you soon,
Love,
Corinne

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46 Comments

  1. July 11, 2018 / 3:24 pm

    I like how you are actually carrying this bold style so well. I wouldn’t be able to pull it of at all. Looks good on you.

  2. Olga Zak
    July 12, 2018 / 10:28 am

    Nice colorful outlook. You are looking stunning. Perfect for you.

  3. July 12, 2018 / 4:09 pm

    You look absolutely stunning Corinne! This playsuit is fabulous and so bright! xx

  4. July 12, 2018 / 4:22 pm

    I love that outfit it looks so good on you! I don’t generally wear bold pieces but I do think that I am owning more and more slightly bold pieces that wouldn’t have even considered wearing a few years ago.

    Molly | http://www.mollyeez.co.uk

  5. July 12, 2018 / 4:39 pm

    First off that jumpsuit is stunning and you look amazing in it!! I find it so interesting how seeing others wear what they want really helped you own your style. I don’t personally wear bold colours or patterns but I’m really trying to step out of my style comfort zone. Reading this though makes me think I need to actually try bold prints before dismissing them and sticking to my monochromatic ways, loved the post!x

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  6. July 12, 2018 / 4:51 pm

    I wish I had the confidence to wear something that bold out!! You look amazing hun

  7. Rosetta Robinson
    July 12, 2018 / 5:00 pm

    I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with all that negativity! It’s so nice to see you doing you now though and you look FANTASTIC in your colourful jump suit! 💖

  8. July 12, 2018 / 5:12 pm

    I’ve struggled a lot with my confidence in the past & I still do, quite a lot. But I’ve noticed that after moving into a bigger city & having a breast reduction surgery, all those things have eased up a bit. I’m still taking it all one step at a time, when it comes to the clothes I wear. But slowly & steady comes the best results, right?
    By the way, you look amazing! Don’t ever let anyone make you think otherwise!

    lots of love, Jasmin
    // littlethingswithjassy.com

  9. July 12, 2018 / 6:04 pm

    This jumpsuit is absolutely stunning! I always felt somewhat judged or conscious of what I wore – until I started university. I noticed how everyone wore what they wanted, I even saw one girl walk past me wearing cow print flared trousers with a fluffy blue jacket. It blows my mind how people can be so judgmental as to what people wear – it’s meant to be fun and a reflection of ourselves. I love your bold style! Loved this!

    Evie x | https://eviejayne.co.uk

  10. July 12, 2018 / 7:44 pm

    I just love this look. I’m all about bright colors. You look fabulous in this!

  11. July 12, 2018 / 8:32 pm

    Yes! People are constantly judging others for what they’re wearing and unless it’s a good judgement like holy sh*t you look great then I don’t wanna hear them! You look gorgeous in this and I bet anyone who looked twice at you just wishes they had the confidence to wear something so bold!
    Sophie – https://sophiehearts.net x

  12. Cally
    July 12, 2018 / 9:04 pm

    I can completely relate with you on this post! I always feel judged by people especially when wearing heels or wedges during the day! It’s such a shame tnay society can make us feel this way. Continue being you and showing off your fantastic style and personality. I love that jumpsuit! It’s so bright and fun!!
    Love, Cally x
    http://www.lovecally.com

  13. July 12, 2018 / 9:43 pm

    I love bold colors and am not afraid to wear them. If it makes you feel good, then wear it.

  14. July 12, 2018 / 11:20 pm

    Great post! This jumpsuit looks great on you! I tend to wear the same colors all the time, and when I venture out and wear something bright, people comment on it. I should do it more but am such a creature of habit…

  15. July 13, 2018 / 4:21 am

    I absolutely love the color blocking… You just look great in all the pictures… I wish I can pull off wearing that outfit as you 🙂 <3

  16. July 13, 2018 / 4:31 am

    Ahhhh this is such a summer vibe! I love trying bold looks myself, it’s always fun or you eventually learn what doesn’t work for you…I think you’re right people are always fast to be judgy and think they can tell you how to express yourself with yout clothes. I glad to see you embracing something bold and just going for it! You look great! <3

    xx Lena | https://lenadeexo.com

  17. Emma Riley
    July 13, 2018 / 5:24 am

    Wow! You look amazingly beautiful. Loved the color combination on your spaghetti strap dress. It rhymes with you.

  18. July 13, 2018 / 10:54 am

    I’ve never been particularly bold with my style. I wear a lot of black and neutral shades. I’ve ventured out and bought a couple of bold-ER pieces recently but nothing as bold as this jumpsuit! You can definitely pull off a bold style 🙂 xxx

  19. July 13, 2018 / 10:57 am

    I wish I could carry off such a bold style, I just don’t have the confidence too. You look utterly amazing in this outfit though x

  20. July 13, 2018 / 1:55 pm

    That jumpsuit is very bold and looks amazing on you! I should try to be as bold.

  21. July 13, 2018 / 4:54 pm

    Oh my goodness you are rocking that jumpsuit! I need to step out of my comfort zone and try out more vibrant colours.

  22. July 13, 2018 / 5:39 pm

    I’d have to say that you have completely mastered the bolder style. I’ve been adding color into my wardrobe for the first time this year and it has given me a lot more confidence than just trying to blend in and be invisible. I’d love that jumpsuit for myself.

  23. July 14, 2018 / 1:29 am

    I often find myself doubting the ‘bold’ things that I wear, but also know that I love seeing people have confidence to wear what shows who they are

  24. July 14, 2018 / 2:36 am

    Well, I don’t know about anyone else but I love your bold style. Style is a form of self-expression, which means nobody else’s opinion matters. Rock on Sista!

  25. July 15, 2018 / 5:43 am

    Hey you are looking great. Thanks for this amazing post too. Looking for amazing post like this in future.

  26. July 15, 2018 / 9:24 am

    Hey, i so love the bold colors you have. it looks so lovely on you. perfectly describe you at the moment – so bold and playful yet staying pretty.

  27. July 15, 2018 / 2:33 pm

    I have never been into fashion! I am literally a pants and t shirt girl. I do like looking at it, however, and this looks great on you.

  28. July 15, 2018 / 8:26 pm

    What a wonderful post! I love the colors, it looks amazing on you. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  29. July 15, 2018 / 11:25 pm

    You look gorgeous! I say – if you love the outfit and feel confident in it, then wear it and don’t worry about what other people think.

  30. Dannii
    July 16, 2018 / 8:06 am

    I can relate to this. I am really trying to wear more colour, as I wear too much black.

  31. July 16, 2018 / 1:37 pm

    That jumpsuit looks great on you and I love it paired with the denim jacket. Yes, teenagers can be very mean and adults also can be judgmental. It’s best to just wear what you feel comfortable in and not worry about what others think.

  32. Jessica Taylor
    July 16, 2018 / 1:47 pm

    Because of my body shape I am always nervous about implementing bolder prints. I guess I need to step out of my comfort zone

  33. July 16, 2018 / 2:01 pm

    Wow such beautiful and vibrant dress. Love the way you’re carrying it.

  34. Edward
    July 16, 2018 / 2:51 pm

    I didn’t have any problen blending with the crowd with the types of clothes i used to wear during teen age. 90s was the prime of my life. I guess I was kinda lucky because my parents had a hotshot jobs during those times. But as tim went on I gradually lost my interest to fashion bec of uniforms during in college but I still buy clothes regularly that are in according to time. I like your post. The clothes wear is what we are. You have a great sense in fashion very cool. By the it’s not only your sense that is cool. You are pretty as well and your hair is very neat. Loveeeeet ( but don’t confuse me as being gay haha)

  35. Lupe
    July 16, 2018 / 4:19 pm

    I constantly try and wear clothes that are “stylish” and “on trend” to get people to think I’m stylish. In high school I would only wear jeans and sweaters, I’d never been seen in skirts/shorts/dresses but now that’s all I wear! I’ve gotten more confident as time passed, and I love to try different outfits and styles to see what I like

  36. July 16, 2018 / 4:21 pm

    Wow you look absolutely stunning! These colours really suit you and it’s such a perfect summer outfit. I definitely wear too much black, I need to add some colour to my wardrobe soon 🙊X

    Tiffany x http://www.foodandotherloves.co.uk

  37. July 16, 2018 / 4:25 pm

    The jumpsuit is gorgeous! I’m a monochrome lover but have recently started wearing a bit more colour- perhaps it’s the warmer weather?- and have received so many ore comments about what I’m wearing, thankfully they’ve all been positive so far! X

  38. July 16, 2018 / 5:39 pm

    That is such a fabulous jumpsuit, I’m loving the bright and vibrant colours! It’s awesome that you are being more bold with your style Corinne, you have a stunning figure and you should definitely wear what you like! Great post girl! 💖 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

  39. July 16, 2018 / 6:41 pm

    This jumpsuit looks amazing on you, you really suit this style. The colours are so vibrant, I don’t understand how anyone could not feel instantly happy when either wearing or looking at it. I know what you mean about sometimes feeling uncomfortable in clothes but now I’m older I just wear whatever I want because the only opinions that matter to me (apart from my own) are Alan’s and Flora’s. You look lovely, I’m so glad you feel confident about wearing this now xx

    Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com

  40. July 16, 2018 / 9:16 pm

    I completely agree with you – people across all demographics can be cruel. But sod them all! Wear what you want when you want. I realised that a few years ago and I’ve been much happier. You look gorgeous in that jumpsuit – and for me, the brighter the better.

  41. July 17, 2018 / 4:47 am

    I am so in love with your outfit! It looks different and I like how you rocked it. Bolder style is great – it shows that you’re daring and love yourself. There’s nothing wrong with trying out different fashion trends and style. Hey, you’re going to start a trend if anything, hehe.

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

  42. July 17, 2018 / 12:55 pm

    You look gorgeous on that dress, I love the different colors very summery. I was looking for something like this for our next beach destination.

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