Are we just about to say goodbye to 2018? It would appear so! We’re not even two weeks away. Where has this year gone? Ah, 2018… You were a short and a quick one, yet an intense one. In a good way. You were good to me and taught me quite a few lessons that I shall remember. And hopefully, those lessons will prove valuable to others!
Temporary hard work does not pay off
To those who ever wondered, hard work pays off. Most people don’t get what they want without working for it. No efforts means no rewards. That’s a pretty basic rule, that many – myself included – tend to forget sometimes. Sometimes we also take those rewards for granted. We think the fruit of our hard labour will carry on growing, prospering and in some way, we are a bit entitled. And then, it all goes downhill. Because hard work is not a one off. Long lasting rewards and long lasting growth happen thanks to continuous effort and work. You know what they say, never rest on your laurel’s, or you’ll stay stuck where you are.
Life is too short
Life goes on pretty fast. One minute it is Monday, the next the week is over. Life will not go slower waiting for your to make decisions. The older you’ll get, the faster life will go. And because all your decisions now will affect your future self and life, you want to make sure you make the right ones, the ones that make you happy, make you feel good. This can apply to any aspects of your life – relationship, friendship, work, family. You deserve to be happy, and maybe, if something or someone is taking you away from that, you might want to reconsider whether they should be part of your life or not. Tough decisions very often end up being the best ones for your well-being. Sure, you might not see it at first, but you will, eventually.
Friendship does not need to be old to be true
You would think the the oldest friendships are the strongest and bound to last forever? That young friendship are fickle, unstable and weak? It is as much of a social construct – and something sold to us by Hollywood – than it is wrong. I have a few very old friendships that are healthy, strong and important to me yet very distant. I have had an old friendship that turned out to be incredibly abusive and toxic and that made me feel bad about myself all the time. And I have relatively young friendships that I think is incredibly strong, based on honesty, care and balance. It does not matter how old it is, what matter is the intention behind it.
You need to speak up
Let’s imagine a situation where something annoys you so much it makes you feel bad about yourself, prevents you from being productive at work, even makes you dread going to work. Not ideal, I agree. You complain about it to your partner, family, co-workers, anyone, except to the person you need to tell it to. The person who can make it better for you. And you carry on complaining. Well, nothing is going to change that way. So yes, speaking up is terrifying in some ways, because you don’t want to be that person you know, but in the end, you do you and if it is the only way to improve a situation you are in, then speak up. Or if anything disturbs you really.
Go after what you want
As previously said, life is short and good things don’t happen to people who wait without producing any efforts. That’s just how it works. And if you really want something, you need to at least do the first step towards getting it. It does not have to be a massive jump or a massive change. Just a small step, which will lead to another and another, and that will eventually take you where you want to go. Sometimes, it is also good to take risks, jump in the unknown because it can leads you to what you aspire for. Yes, it might be terrifying at first but in the end, again, life is too short.
What about you?
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What about you? How do you feel about 2018? Has this year taught you any valuable lessons? What are you taking away from 2018? What is a good year for you?
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